I have to admit I wake up most of the time happy and ready for my day. Excited to show my littles something new and exciting. I try to be positive in the way I act and talk with them during the day. Not everyone comes in that way and that is ok, we are all different. It takes me a little bit to figure out what will work with each child. Sometimes they carry the hurt feelings (from not getting what they want) and frustration from whatever has happened in the car on the way to school. Heck sometimes they don’t even know why they are upset.
A lot of my kids friends parent’s over the years would ask me how I get my kids to talk to me. I started when they were small asking them what was bad about their day first so they could get that out and finishing with what was good, they would just open up. Of course it is harder as they get older because some of what they would say would drop my jaw. I focused on not being judgmental, being quiet and just listening and really trying hard not to tell them exactly what to do to fix it. Because a lot of times they would just want to get it off of their chest. Believe me it is hard just to listen especially for me.
The more our children feel they can talk to us about the little things, the more likely they will be to open up about the bigger issues later on.
We give our children an amazing gift by simply being present when they talk to us. When we hold judgement and listen to our children with the intent to discover, support and connect, magic happens!
I use this same method with the kids I work with and it works great. When we are sitting for centers or free time, I start of by just listening and piping in by saying ” How do you feel about that, or like ” oh really?.
They open up easily if you are not distracted and they know you are focused on them.
Below are some of the saying I will say to them:
What else can you tell me about that?
No way! Can you tell me more?
Seriously? Then what happened?
How do feel about what happened?
WRITING IN THE CLOUDS
This activity was so much fun we will be doing this more. Some of them did not like the texture at first. But when they got used to it, they had a blast.
My kids that are getting ready for kindergarten are flourishing with the games and lessons that are being sent. Sometimes they even surprise me on how well they are doing.
Fun activity for the park. that way they could blow on the straw and the plane was able to fly far.